048 Youâ€™re Killing Your Mother! Vegans Who Donâ€™t Want Kids
Are you someone who doesnâ€™t want kids? Do you get a lot of shit for it? The girls talk about all the weird ways society tries to make people who donâ€™t want kids feel bad.
In This Episode
Nichole and Callie, inspired by our listener Kim and an article over on Bustle called The One Thing That Scares Me About Not Wanting Kids, talk about not wanting kids and all the bullshit that comes with telling people.
Popular media represents childless people as immature, irresponsible and selfish, but this isnâ€™t the case. Our culture uses scare tactics to try to make us think that not having kids will be a huge mistake, or that we wonâ€™t be able to find a partner, or that weâ€™ll never mature. But most people who donâ€™t want kids, donâ€™t want them for good reasons. Being clear of what you do and donâ€™t want in life, and being able to communicate it to others is the height of maturity.
As women, we are all too aware of the stereotypes and presumptions that are put on women around having or wanting children. We tried to get the male perspective on this experience through polling our guy friends on Facebook and reading this informative, thoughtful article by Rob Greenfield on why he got a vasectomy at age 25.
Included is an interview with a couple, Holly from Rise & Resist and her partner Ed, who are proudly child-free and are getting a vasectomy in early January to make it official and permanent. Holly and Ed have had a great experience with their friends and family being open about not wanting kids, providing an encouraging view of how things could be.
Links and Information
- FDA Issues New Rules for Fruit and Vegetable Production (VegNews)
- Fat-Shaming Cards Handed Out on the Tube (The Guardian)
Mentioned in the episode
- Rob Greenfield: Why I Got a Vasectomy at 25 (RobGreenfield.tv)
- The One Thing That Scares Me About Not Wanting Kids (Bustle)
- Holly Noll is on the Rise & Resist podcast; she and Ed Bauer are coach/owners of PlantFit Strength and Conditioning in Oakland, CA.
A compelling case for paid maternity leave, and another layer to the hypocrisy: weâ€™ll pressure you to have kids, but then provide no support for you to spend time with them or heal from the delivery.