084 All About Being an Ally
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Today we’re talkin’ bout being an ally: the reality of what happens when you get educated and decide to use your privilege for good. An honest conversation about the realities of allyship and how to properly process difficult feelings.In This Episode
Nichole and Callie have a frank discussion about what happens when you become an ally, particularly the tough things that come up or occur, the ways your life will change that will challenge you and your privilege, including:- You will feel isolated
- You may lose relationships
- You WILL mess up, many times
- You will learn that people HATE you for your privilege, and you will not be able to change their minds (and you shouldn’t try!)
- Do not ever ever ever process AT the marginalized group you are trying to be an ally for, only process with people with your privilege
- Realize that your voice does not need to be heard in every conversation – leave it out of spaces made for people in the marginalized group(s)
- Consume media made by people of the marginalized group for the people in the marginalized group (and again, just consume, don’t comment!)
- Accept that you will always be a little “ist,” you grew up with privilege inside a system of oppression (or several) and that shit gets internalized DEEP. You will always be learning and discovering icky little things you have to seek out and destroy. This FUCKING SUCKS to admit, but it’s true and it will make a better ally if you own up to it.
Links and Information
News- UN Expert Calls for Tax on Meat Production (The Guardian)
- PETA Warns Mexican US Border Crossers (PETA): FUCK PETA FOR REALZ
- NIH Announces Plans to Transfer Chimps from Laboratories to Sanctuaries (Humane Society)
- Italian Lawmaker Equates Vegan Diet with Child Abuse but Doctors and Dietitians Say it Can be Healthy (Forbes)
- The [White Savior] Elephant in the Room: Ally Theater, Savior Complex, and Speaking for ‘The Other’: a must-read for allies everywhere. Educate thyself!